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What to do when you are speaking and you lose your train of thought – Part 1

You are making a point or answering a question – then you lose your train of thought and you can’t remember where you were going or the point you were making,

You feel embarrassed. The harder you try to get back on track, the harder it is to remember what you were going to say. You feel as if all eyes are on you – judging your communication “train wreck” – and it all started off so well. Every second you freeze and fumble seems like an “excruciating eternity”.

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Luckily, there are ways you can cope – simple reflexes you can develop.

Here are a few tips so you can be prepared and recover smoothly

1. Work out an “end point” – and stop when you reach it
2. Pause before your make a point or answer a question. During that pause – work out your “end point”.
3. Practise pausing, working out an “end point”, and stopping when you reach it. When you practise start off pausing for longer. The more you practice – the faster you will become.

1. Work out an “end point” – and stop when you reach it

The end point is the final words you will say to make your point. By finishing strongly rather than trailing off, you can make a strong impression.

2. Pause before your make a point or answer a question

We often launch into a point or an answer. We often feel that a pause makes us seem uncertain or not confident. Yet, a short pause can make your point or answer seem considered. It also gives you valuable “thinking time”

3. Practise pausing, working out an “end point”, and stopping when you reach it

We develop good habits by repetition and practise.

You can practise in everyday conversations when someone asks you a question

OR you can ask a colleague to ask you questions and you practise responding

OR you can:
• grab some post it notes or small cards
• write out various questions, shuffle them
• respond to the questions out loud – practising pausing, working out your end point and stopping when you reach it.

Knowing when to stop is an important discipline to master.

Many of my clients are very smart people – yet many don’t know when to stop talking. They lose their audience and they often lose their own train of thought. They have benefited from this exercise of knowing an end point and knowing when to stop. In the past they keep on talking and either lose their train of though or fizzle out.

My last words to you – my end point if I was saying this to you face to face….

Finish strongly

Know when to stop!

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One comment on “What to do when you are speaking and you lose your train of thought – Part 1

  1. efangelist
    August 31, 2015

    Reblogged this on efangelist.

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